Get Your Sexy Back

When Conversations Turn Into Fights: Breaking the Cycle of Conflict and Shutdown

Episode Notes

You know that feeling when a simple conversation spirals into the same fight you’ve had a hundred times before.
It’s not about the dishes or the money. It’s about safety, disconnection, and your nervous system trying to protect you.

In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we open up about how to recognize when your nervous systems are running the show and how to repair and reconnect when it happens.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• What is the real reason behind recurring fights, and why it’s rarely about what you think
• How the nervous system drives reactivity, defensiveness, and shutdown in moments of conflict
• What is the hidden cost of unresolved arguments, and how do  they quietly erode intimacy and trust
• How does the shift from blame to curiosity look like, and how does that one change transform conflict into connection
• What are the practical tools for regulation and repair so you can anchor yourself and your partner in safety
• Why retreats work when nothing else has and how new environments accelerate healing and intimacy

If you’re ready to stop fighting the same fight and start feeling safe, seen, and connected again, this episode is your roadmap back to love.

REGISTRATION IS OPEN NOW FOR OUR NOVEMBER 20–24 GROUP COUPLE RETREAT AT PHOENIX RISING.

Here’s what you’ll experience:

• Sacred intimacy rituals that blend healing and pleasure
• Practices that make sex less about performance and more about play
• Space to take everything back into your room… and let it get hot in your own way
• The safety of a group container where shame dissolves and passion expands

This isn’t about adding “spice.” It’s about remembering how good it feels to choose each other… body, heart, and soul.

Only 5 couples. Rooms are filling first-come, first-served (GeoDomes or cottage).

👉 Say yes to passion that lasts - reserve your retreat spot here
https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

👉 Or book a free Exploration Call to ask your questions and see if this is the right fit
https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/explorationcall

About us: 

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing. 

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic... 

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.